These 2 days of non-activity and just purely grieving helps alot.. esp the material i came across online too.. shall copy a couple here for my own reference in future:

Dispositionally, the narcissist is of most, "Controlling". The need for control is most formidible, in every aspect of their life. Nothing can be compromised at any time, any event, or in any detail. Deceitfullness is utmost, and the edge to further any situation to have as one may is only to be subjected to a petty artifice, or that of a, "grifter". Words are spoken as an illusion of confidence. Despite all. Ignore and move on to that of what you can enjoy. They have free rent in your head. Fill it with some new tenants! That of what or those you enjoy! You may need to start long ago where you left back in you life before the "Wolf came to your door." Keeping the door locked may not be such a bad idea. Negative emotional contagion, and the parasitic symbotic relationships need to end. For every cloud has silver lining.

A relationship with a narcissist is as beneficial and pleasant as a relationship with a rattlesnake. Deal with them the same way you would deal with the situation if you spotted a rattlesnake a few feet away from you.

When you terminate the relationship with the rattlesnake er... narcissist, do not seek "closure" or try to explain to them why you are taking such steps or explain to them you still wish them well etc. A narcissist will merely try to exploit what s/he sees as your weakness when you do such things.

Remember - you can't out psycho a psycho and you can't hurt someone who has defenses that would make the Marines proud.

Couz said something before: always pray that u don't encounter such characters, esp characters who can outdo u psychosocially. I learned that there are such sick people in this world.. who have no innate goodness and live and thrive on the unhappiness and pain of others. At least i learned something out of this.

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The other thing that crossed my mind is: if i have to think of the worst case scenario, and that is to see them happy and married now, or within a few months, or him informing everyone that she was the one who changed him. Then here comes the catch 22: for how long dude? for how long.. 2 months, 6 months? a year? 10 years? Depending on the length of time and of course the character of said partner involved, Narcs being emotional vampires would have sucked all the life outta the victim. Hey, perhaps the biatch prefers it that way.

Seems fitting that his initials coincides with Narcissist and the women in his life are all Narcissist Supplies (NS). Extremely befitting.. Cheers to that.