A little reminder..

I have been really tied down lately, and unfortunately have not been in the best of spirits as a result. I guess I forgot to take care of myself.. and I have even snapped at some people. Thankew for your patience with me my angels.. this period.. Received an email from one of those lists i subscribed to today that reminded me..

Hey Beautiful,

What do the ones we love need from us most of all?

They need us to stay the GEM that we are - by taking care of ourselves on the inside.

Here is an email I received about this:

Mimi,

Thank you for this message! The one factor I forgot in the equation of my life was me.

No more. I do need more.

Again, thank you.

Eve

Interestingly, this person's name is EVE.

EVE is a reminder of the first woman. EVE can remind us that our first and most important task is to honor the essence of who we are - (or who we are becoming)!

Taking care of you can be tough when times are toughest.

It's when it seems hardest of all to care for yourself that it's more important than ever to take care of YOU.

If you neglect your own emotional needs and don't listen to your own heart, then you won't be nearly your best at taking care of the people you love or the things you care about.

When you don't take care of yourself; when you put yourself last on your own list - then you open yourself up to getting sick or down emotionally or in some other kind of mess.

We all have our Moments of Truth. Everyone goes through tough times, even if it doesn't always seem that way.

If life gets too far from "normal" or "happy" for too long, it can be debilitating.

We often don't know what "normal" and "happy" are - until we no longer have them.

Tough times make us appreciate how wonderful it is to have "ordinary" times. What might otherwise seem ordinary is reason to get down on our knees in thankfulness.

You owe it to YOU to be YOU. Remember that people love you for who you are. Don't let yourself slip away - when you need your own strength the most.

The people who love you look to you for your strength and kindness and gentleness and humor and good-heartedness (or as much of those as you can rustle up) :).

Life is short, so contribute your best while you can - your good spirits and your encouraging words - even when it's not easy to do.

"Beautiful" is in your soul - in the person who treats the others who cross your path in a way that makes them feel happier, seen, heard, encouraged, and respected.

Often we also need to forgive others who are not able to give these same things back to us - because they're so consumed in stress and have lost the big picture.

How does this relate to your love life?

When it comes down to it, there's one thing that is more important than anything else:

The ultimate thing a man needs from the woman he loves is to be able to Trust Her Kind Heart.

If he has faith in that, then he has faith in you.

I have heard from women whose trust has been stomped on - and who have decided to step away from hurtful relationships - wisely!

Don't let that stop you from being you or from taking care of you. That's how to be strong and face what life brings us - finding solutions and making things work - or sometimes - just hanging on until the storm passes. Whatever it takes!

Credits: Mimi Tanner, Relationships advisor

I haven't used this space for very long. Just want to use this today to document a nice incident I had yesterday.

Sat on a cab back and the uncle, whom I realized was an old man upon payment, waived off almost $2 off my cab fare for me. So sweet! Just because he said he lived nearby.. My cab fare came up to $5.65, I handed him $6, and he just gave me back $2, I said cannot.. And he insisted because he only lived nearby. It is not everyday you meet a nice taxi uncle, so I must credit him.. On top of the fact he looks like the kind of nice grandfather I never had.

I believe in karma, paying it forward. Sometimes when I sit on a cab, I believe in giving that little extra, because my father is in the line himself, and I hope the good karma will go back and he will meet nice customers. Yesterday night, I met the nice uncle. I hope he receives good karma too.

=)